These 4 behaviors will raise 'red flags' on a first date, according to Tinder and Hinge users. Here's how to avoid them

If you’ve been swiping on the dating apps recently, you’ve probably noticed that the bios of your potential matches are littered with the red flag emoji – this year it was one of the most frequently used emoji in Tinder bios, according to the app’s data. 

Some red flags are pretty specific to the person (think: “don’t love dogs!”) but others are commonly held.

And all of them can thwart your attempt at a long-term partnership — something many singles expressed wanting this year — before it even begins.

In 2022, 50% of singles said they would’ve been happier over the last year if they’d been in a relationship. In 2021, 35% had the same response. 

Here are four red flags that might cost you a potential match, according to dating app data.

Getting drunk on a first date

Three-in-four singles don’t want to get drinks on a first date, according to Hinge’s data.

Of those surveyed, 45% said they prefer sober dates because they are prioritizing their mental health and 55% said it helps them get to know the other person better.

What should you do instead? 

Well, 17% of daters on the app would rather meet for coffee. About 11% would rather see a show or go to a museum and 14% would rather go for a walk.

Being ‘too into’ Instagram 

Those who are “too into” Instagram or Snapchat come off as self absorbed, according to Hinge users.

That’s why 74% of said don’t want to date someone who is constantly using social networking apps. 

While on a date, it’s probably best to keep the phone face down. 

Not knowing about politics or social issues 

Being in the know about social and political issues is a huge plus for daters, according to Tinder data. 

A whopping 75% of singles were looking for a match who respected or were invested in social issues. 

And almost half, 47%, of singles said that finding out the person they are dating is a non-voter is a “deal breaker.” 

This doesn’t mean your views have to totally align with those of a potential partner. Only 24% of users said they want to date someone who thinks exactly as they do and 46% said they would date someone who has different political views. 

Bringing up trauma 


Missile strikes on Ukraine kill one — Zelenskyy says Russians in league with the devil

Rescuers work at a site of a building damaged during a Russian missile strike, amid Russia’s attack on Ukraine, in Kyiv, Ukraine on Dec. 31, 2022.

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Numerous blasts were heard in Kyiv and in other places around Ukraine and air raid sirens wailed across the country in the first couple hours after midnight on New Year’s Day.

As the sirens wailed, some people in Kyiv shouted from their balconies, “Glory to Ukraine! Glory to heroes!” Reuters witnesses reported.

Fragments from a missile destroyed by Ukrainian air defense systems damaged a car in the capital’s center, but preliminarily there were no wounded or casualties, Kyiv Mayor Vitali Klitschko said.

Kyiv’s city military administration said that 23 Russian-launched “air objects” had been destroyed.

The attacks came minutes after Ukraine’s President Volodymyr Zelenskyy New Year message of wishes of victory for his country in the war that is in its 11th month, with no end in sight.

Blasts continued to be heard after that, with no immediate reports of damages, Reuters witnesses reported.

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There were also unofficial reports of blasts in the southern region of Kherson and the northern Zhytomyr region.

The attacks followed a barrage of more than 20 cruise missiles fired at targets across on Ukraine on Saturday in what Ukraine’s human rights ombudsman Dmytro Lubinets called “Terror on New Year’s Eve.”

Kyiv city and region officials said on the Telegram messaging app that air defense systems were working. Oleksiy Kuleba, the governor of the Kyiv region, said the region was being attacked by drones. It was not immediately known whether any targets were hit.

Separately, Vyacheslav Gladkov, governor of the southern Russian region of Belgorod bordering with Ukraine, said that as a result of overnight shelling of the outskirts of Shebekino town, there were damages to houses, but no casualties.

Ukraine has never publicly claimed responsibility for any attacks inside Russia but has called them “karma” for Russia’s Feb. 24 invasion.


Mark Cuban on the habit all 30-somethings need to succeed: Without it, 'you're not expanding your mind'

If you can’t come up with a New Year’s resolution, Mark Cuban has you covered.

On Sunday, the Dallas Mavericks owner told Bill Maher on the “Club Random” podcast that everyone over 30 should be reading every day. Otherwise, they’re limiting themselves and their career, he said.

“Somebody 40 and over, even 30 and over, if you’re not reading, you’re f—ed… because you’re not expanding your mind,” Cuban said. “I tell my kids… ‘Somebody who doesn’t read lives one life, somebody who reads an unlimited number of lives.'”

Turns out, Cuban is onto something. A 2016 study conducted by Yale University School of Public Health researchers found reading 30 minutes a day helped participants 50 and older live on average two years longer than their non-reading counterparts, regardless of health, wealth, gender and education.

Cuban himself is an active reader. In 2018, he told CNBC Make It he reads four to five hours per day studying national and local news, emails and technology research.

And seems Cuban’s two older daughters picked up his affinity for reading — or at least were bribed into it. When they were younger, both girls would be rewarded with “shoes or whatever they wanted” after they read a certain number of pages, Cuban said. Then, the family could have conversations about what they read.

But Cuban said he had to adopt a different strategy for his son, now 13, who doesn’t like to read. Cuban was worried his son’s ambivalence toward books would “hurt him long term” — until he realized his son was learning in different ways.

“They consume a lot of information [online],” Cuban said. “The challenge wasn’t so much, are they learning? …The challenge for me was understanding how they learn.”

After noticing his son was picking up business concepts like gross margins and royalties from watching YouTube and TikTok videos, Cuban realized the platforms could act as parenting tools.

“[Tiktok] is the best parental tool in the world because… [it’s] artificial intelligence based off of what you watch,” Cuban said on the podcast. “So, if I want to know what my kids are into, I just look at their TikTok feeds.”

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