Cheating spouses may not feel guilty

An extensive survey of people using Ashley Madison, a website for facilitating extramarital affairs, challenges widely held notions about infidelity.

Married people who have affairs through the site find them highly satisfying, express little remorse, and believe the cheating didn’t hurt their otherwise healthy marriages, according to the paper in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior.

“In popular media, television shows and movies and books, people who have affairs have this intense moral guilt and we don’t see that in this sample of participants,” says lead author Dylan Selterman, an associate teaching professor in Johns Hopkins University’s department of psychological and brain sciences.

“Ratings for satisfaction with affairs was high—sexual satisfaction and emotional satisfaction. And feelings of regret were low. These findings paint a more complicated picture of infidelity compared to what we thought we knew.”

Researchers conducted this study to better understand the psychological experiences of those who seek and engage in extramarital affairs. Working with researchers at the University of Western Ontario, Selterman surveyed nearly 2,000 active users of Ashley Madison before and after they had affairs.

Participants were asked about the state of their marriage, about why they wanted to have an affair, and about their general well-being. Respondents, generally middle aged and male, reported high levels of love for their partners, yet low levels of sexual satisfaction.

Participants reported high levels of love for their spouses, yet about half of the participants said that they were not sexually active with their partners. Sexual dissatisfaction was the top-cited motivation to have an affair, with other motivations including the desire for independence and for sexual variety. Fundamental problems with the relationship, like lack of love or anger toward a spouse were among the least-cited reasons for wanting to cheat.

Having great marriages didn’t make cheaters any more likely to regret affairs, the survey found. Participants generally reported that their affair was highly satisfying both sexually and emotionally, and that they did not regret having it.

The results suggest that infidelity isn’t necessarily the result of a deeper problem in the relationship, Selterman says. Participants sought affairs because they wanted novel, exciting sexual experiences, or sometimes because they didn’t feel a strong commitment to their partners, rather than because of a need for emotional fulfillment, the report found.

“People have a diversity of motivations to cheat,” Selterman says. “Sometimes they’ll cheat even if their relationships are pretty good. We don’t see solid evidence here that people’s affairs are associated with lower relationship quality or lower life satisfaction.”

Selterman hopes to advance this work by looking closer at how other populations of cheaters compare to the Ashley Madison population.

“The take-home point for me is that maintaining monogamy or sexual exclusivity especially across people’s lifespans is really, really hard and I think people take monogamy for granted when they’re committed to someone in a marriage,” Selterman says.

“People just assume that their partners are going to be totally satisfied having sex with one person for the next 50 years of their lives but a lot of people fail at it. It doesn’t mean everyone’s relationship is doomed, it means that cheating might be a common part of people’s relationships.”

Source: Johns Hopkins University

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Alex Murdaugh indicted in alleged $4M insurance theft in housekeeper's death, other financial schemes

A federal grand jury on Wednesday indicted convicted murderer Alex Murdaugh on 22 counts of fraud stemming in part from an alleged scheme to steal some $4 million in insurance settlement funds from his housekeeper’s family.

The disgraced South Carolina lawyer now faces more than 100 alleged financial crimes, which began in 2005, stemming from various indictments.

“Trust in our legal system begins with trust in its lawyers,” U.S. Attorney Adair F. Boroughs said in a Wednesday statement. “South Carolinians turn to lawyers when they are at their most vulnerable, and in our state, those who abuse the public’s trust and enrich themselves by fraud, theft, and self-dealing will be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law.”

Federal prosecutors on Tuesday also accused Murdaugh’s longtime friend, Cory Fleming, of conspiracy to commit wire fraud in the apparent theft of nearly $4 million in insurance fees.

A man looks on inside a courtroom.

Alex Murdaugh, pictured here, and Cory Fleming allegedly worked together to deposit dozens of forged settlement checks into a fraudulent Bank of America account named “Forge,” apparently after Forge Consulting, LLC, an insurance advisory company. (Andrew J. Whitaker/The Post and Courier/Pool)

Fleming, a suspended lawyer and Murdaugh’s college roommate, on Wednesday agreed to plead guilty to one count of conspiracy to commit wire fraud in South Carolina District Court.

The charging document filed Monday alleges that Fleming worked with Murdaugh to deposit forged settlement checks into a fraudulent Bank of America account named “Forge,” apparently after Forge Consulting, LLC, an insurance advisory company.

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Murdaugh and Fleming allegedly stole $3.8 million from Nautilus Insurance Company and $500,000 from Lloyd’s of London that should have gone to the family of Murdaugh’s deceased housekeeper, Gloria Satterfield.

A close up of Alex Murdaugh tearing up.

Alex Murdaugh cries in court at his double murder trial in Walterboro, South Carolina, on on Feb. 22, 2023. (Grace Beahm Alford/The Post and Courier/pool)

Satterfield died after a fall at Murdaugh’s home in 2018, and he was accused of stealing an insurance settlement that was intended for her children.

Satterfield’s son, Tony Satterfield, testified during Murdaugh’s murder trial that his family never received a penny from the $4 million settlement funds. The Satterfield family has a $4.3 million judgment against Murdaugh, which he voluntarily signed. 

“At Richard Alexander Murdaugh’s direction, [Fleming] issued checks made payable to ‘Forge’ totaling $3,483,431.95. Richard Alexander Murdaugh deposited the funds into his ‘fake Forge’ account, knowing that the funds belonged to the Estate of G.S., and thereafter used the funds for his personal enrichment,” the complaint states.

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“The Estate of G.S. did not receive any of the settlement funds,” federal prosecutors wrote.

Gloria Satterfield and Alex Murdaugh

Gloria Satterfield, left, worked as a housekeeper and a nanny at the Murdaugh home for two decades. (Brice Herndon Funeral Home/AP)

Satterfield apparently tripped and fell on the front steps at the Murdaughs’ home on their South Carolina hunting estate, Moselle. Satterfield died days later in a hospital, and an autopsy was never conducted. Her death certificate said she died of natural causes, which her family and Hampton County Coroner Angela Topper later disputed because her injuries were inconsistent with that conclusion.

“Today has been a great day for justice in South Carolina related to the ongoing criminal investigations into Alex Murdaugh and Cory Fleming,” Satterfield family attorneys Eric Bland and Ronald Richter said in a statement, adding that Fleming “has agreed to provide cooperation to the federal authorities, and Dick Harpootlian has indicated that Alex Murdaugh has been cooperating with the United States investigation for some time.”

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“While it is said that Lady Justice is blind, she is not a sucker. Bottom Line — Can’t run or hide from justice,” Bland and Richter said.

The South Carolina Law Enforcement Division has opened an investigation into Satterfield’s death.

Murdaugh has been accused of stealing millions from his former personal injury law firm, The Parker Law Group, formerly known as Peters, Murdaugh, Parker, Eltzroth and Detrick.

Gloria Satterfield and her son, Tony Satterfield

The South Carolina Law Enforcement Division has opened an investigation into Gloria Satterfield’s death. (Eric Bland)

The Parker Law Group is still in the process of repaying all the clients Murdaugh stole from, as Parker Law Group CFO Jeanne Seckinger testified during the disgraced lawyer’s murder trial in February.

Murdaugh was found guilty in the June 2021 murders of his wife, Maggie, and youngest son, Paul, at his family’s estate in Islandton.

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Lead prosecutor Creighton Waters repeatedly asked Seckinger why the firm had to pay back each client.

“Because Alex Murdaugh stole it,” Seckinger said of forged checks presented as evidence in a Colleton County courtroom. She also identified Murdaugh’s handwriting on the checks.

Alex Murdaugh is escorted into the courthouse wearing a tan prison jumpsuit.

Alex Murdaugh is led into the Colleton County courthouse wearing a tan prison jumpsuit in Walterboro, S.C., on March 3, 2023. Murdaugh was found guilty on all counts of murdering his wife and son. (Mark Sims for Fox News Digital )

On June 7, 2021, she confronted Murdaugh and told him she had reason to believe he received hundreds of thousands of dollars in missing fees directly, and he needed to prove he had not. 

Murdaugh in turn said the money was in a trust, and the check for the missing funds had not been cut to the firm yet.

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The former lawyer abruptly received a call at that same time saying his father was back in the hospital, and his condition was terminal, ending his conversation with Seckinger.

Prosecutors alleged during his murder trial that Murdaugh killed his wife and son in an effort to veer attention away from his alleged financial crimes. 

“We are grateful to the FBI for their tireless work on this case and to the South Carolina Attorney General’s Office and the South Carolina Law Enforcement Division for their work to hold Alex Murdaugh, and those who enabled him, accountable in our state system. We remain committed to doing our part to further that effort in the federal system,” Boroughs said Wednesday.

Fox News’ Rebecca Rosenberg contributed to this report.

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How you can prepare for a debt default


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With barely a week to go before the United States defaults on its debt for the first time in history, the White House and congressional leaders remain far apart on any deal.

Failing to raise the debt ceiling would wreak havoc across the US economy and Americans’ personal finances.

House Speaker Kevin McCarthy on Tuesday told a closed-door meeting that “we are nowhere near a deal,” according to sources. A default could affect everything from Social Security payments to the flow of money across the world.

But even in the face of a possible, never-before-seen global economic crisis, there are steps Americans can take to protect themselves from some of the effects.

Here’s how you can prepare for a potential debt default.

The roughly 66 million retirees, disabled workers and others who receive Social Security benefits should brace themselves for potential delays in their monthly checks.

Many of these folks depend heavily on these funds to cover their living expenses, including food, rent, utilities and health care. The average benefit for retired workers is $1,827 a month in 2023.

Almost two-thirds of beneficiaries rely on Social Security for half of their income, and for 40% of recipients, the payments constitute at least 90% of their income, according to the National Committee to Preserve Social Security and Medicare.

“Beneficiaries have earned their benefits through a lifetime of hard work and they rely on their benefits,” Max Richtman, the committee’s CEO, wrote to lawmakers last month. “These payments are at risk of not being paid on time or in full for the first time in our nation’s history.”

However, it’s possible the Treasury Department could continue making on-time payments because of the entitlement program’s trust fund, said Shai Akabas, director of economic policy at the Bipartisan Policy Center.

The benefits are disbursed four times a month, on the third day of the month and on three Wednesdays. Roughly $25 billion a week is sent out, according to the Congressional Budget Office.

Some Department of Defense workers may see their paychecks delayed — including 1.4 million active-duty members of the military and more than 2 million federal civilian workers. Federal government contractors could also see a lag in payments, which could affect their ability to compensate their workers, CNN previously reported.

Military families should make sure they have extra money and that their emergency funds are topped off to weather a missed paycheck, Mike Hunsberger, owner of Next Mission Financial Planning and an Air Force veteran, told CNN. For those with thin budgets, Hunsberger suggested looking again to see if there’s anything else to cut back on, at least temporarily.

Every military service has an organization that can help with temporary loans for those who could be in a crunch — think a car breaking down or an emergency ticket home for a family death, Hunsberger said. Some military-facing banks could also be of assistance.

Those who receive veterans benefits should also have an emergency stockpile prepared — disability payments and pensions for some low-income veterans and their surviving families could be affected by a default.

Bond investors should expect volatility even during deal negotiations. US Treasuries are considered to be the world’s safest assets because they are backed by the full faith and credit of the United States, but the uncertainty over a debt ceiling deal adds risk.

With Treasuries, the key question is when investors will be repaid, not if.

Experts assume that even if the United States briefly goes past the X-date, it will be resolved quickly and the government will make good on its obligations, CNN reported.

If you invest in bonds, pay attention to when your Treasury bills are maturing.

Those who have invested in Treasury bills maturing on or right after June 1 and who definitely need their money at that time — for example, to pay their own bills — might consider selling those bills now and reinvesting in bills that mature sooner, Collin Martin, director and fixed income strategist at the Schwab Center for Financial Research, suggested in an interview with CNN.

And for those into bond funds, check to see that the bond portion of your portfolio has adequate exposure to intermediate and longer-term bonds, rather than being too heavily weighted toward short-term higher yielding bonds.

Steer clear of corporate junk bonds or emerging market bonds, CNN has previously reported. That’s because if the US does default, high-risk debt instruments will come under the most pressure.

“If you need to borrow money, you need the confidence of the markets to lend to you,” Martin said.

“Our general guidance is for investors to maintain a balanced portfolio in keeping with their goals and to remain disciplined. A long-term view is especially important during periods of uncertainty,” Vanguard spokesperson Jessica Schifalacqua said previously told CNN.

Stocks could shed as much as a third of their value even if an agreement is reached, erasing $12 trillion in household debt, Moody’s Analytics said.

Review your equity-to-bond allocation and make any necessary adjustments, Martin advised. Stocks, which are riskier investments than bonds, will probably get more volatile as the deadline date approaches, CNN has reported.

If the US does default, it has to then be resolved, experts say. And when it does, there will be a “relief rally” in the market, Callie Cox, eToro US investment analyst, previously told CNN.

However, there could be an immediate correction period after a deal is reached as the Treasury replenishes the cash it burned through when it couldn’t borrow money, Michael Reynolds, vice president of investment strategy at Glenmede, told CNN.

Investors may be tempted to buy the dip, but there are “so many other pressures weighing on the economy,” Cox said.

“You don’t want to get over-invested with a recession on the horizon,” Reynolds said. In his view, it’s only worth taking advantage of a market sale if the S&P 500 dips below 16% of its current value.

Short-term investors should be even more cautious, experts said.

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